A Hairy Situation With My Kid
YAY! Dr. B at MommyShorts is going to help me!
Here’s the dilemma I’m currently dealing with, it has to do with hair…
Anna has been independent straight out of my womb. She decided to come a week early, sleep on her own schedule (which meant not much) and recently, in addition to dressing herself, now insists on doing her own hair before school.
Most moms would rejoice at this level of independence from a five year old, anything to help get you out the door on time right?
But while I am proud and grateful, I am also extremely worried that Child Protective Services might knock on my door one day soon.
See, her independent “hairstyle” borders on looking “unkempt” and almost neglected, which I can assure you, she’s not.
It’s not her fault, really it’s not.
She has uncooperative hair.
See?
It’s fine, a bit limp and doesn’t stay put unless I braid it, tightly. There’s a pesky wave on the back of her head and her part can’t decide on which side to flop.
But she’s trying, desperately and while it’s incredibly cute and realistically a huge help to me that she wants to get herself ready, I cringe a little bit right before she steps out the door.
But I don’t want to hover like a
helicopter parent
I try not to correct or ‘fix’ her mishaped ‘ponytail’ because I want to be supportive and encouraging. I let my son go out with mismatched socks because he tells me he likes them that way. I’m encouraging their individuality right? Or am I just letting them, specifically her, be a target and subsequently embarrassed?
So what’s a mom to do? I’m posing this question to you and hopefully to Dr. B, Mommyshorts‘s sister and child development psychologist. She’s helped others with their questions on nakedness curiosity protocols and how to deal with fear and monsters for example. I’m hoping she can help me before I add any more future topics to my daughter’s list of ‘future items to discuss with therapist about Mom.’
Click HERE to go see what wisdom she has for me!
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Wait…your five-year old brushes her own hair? I can barely get mine to put on her clothing.
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I know right? I should not be complaining I guess. And by the way, even though mine does put on her own clothing, it’s not always season appropriate. We have tank tops in winter and cordoroy pants in summer. Fashion is fashion I guess!
Don’t worry…I always assume that the kid dressed themselves and did their own hair when I see them in crazy mismatched outfits that only a 5 yr old could see as matching and when a kids hair is flat on one side but all wild on the other or when a rubber band or clip is barley hanging on by one strand of hair:)). I think it’s cute!! Go Anna!!
How’s the hairstyling going? Did you get the dolls yet?
And that is hilarious about helicopter parenting being called “curling” in Scandinavia. Makes sense!
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